Focus on the Family had a married couple on the radio
recently who has written books on marriage. The topic they were discussing on
this program was conflict between spouses. Their solution was to keep talking
about it and praying about it until you reach a point where both spouses are
happy with the resolution.
Jim Daly asked about a conflict that just
didn't seem to be resolving, then what? Their solution was to keep praying
about it until the one with the better solution won the conflict. Huh??? Not one
mention about the husband being the leader or the wife being submissive. Not
one! I think Jim Daly was trying to hint at that but I can't be sure. They seem
to think that the one with the better solution should win whether that is the
husband or the wife.
I am not sure how that works since both
parties always think they have the better solution. This is why conflicts can
go on and on when there isn't one designated leader. I think a much better way
to solve a conflict would be to both share your concerns and solutions and then
the husband decides the solution since he is the head of the home and the wife
is to obey him in everything. In doing it this way, there is no conflict!
This proves my point that there must be a
leader in every organization including the family.
If not, there is going to be strife and probably a lot of it. The Bible
repeatedly commands us to pursue peace with all men and not be in strife or
quarrels with others.
You and you alone can control your
reaction, your anger, your emotions, and your moods towards your husband. You
have no control whatsoever over your husband and his opinions, habits, or
leadership. Instead of having a long drawn out conflict as this couple espouses
over many days or even weeks sometimes, let your husband lead and have the last
word and final say.
Depart
from evil, and do good;
seek
peace, and pursue it.
Psalm 34:14
